uncovering ME : contribution …

I have started a 52 week course with Daily OM called A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self and I hope you will join me by reading the posts that are born from this course.

They can be found under the mind * body * soul category as a subcategory entitled ‘uncovering ME …’.

I have wanted to write my own story for such a long time and I have never done it. The reason for this I am sure will be discovered and discussed through the 52 posts to follow.

So please join me …

. . . uncovering ME . . .
. . .  contribution  . . .

introduction …

I will be using this space to free write and post my unedited thoughts, words, and scribbles. So, I am sure there may be errors that appear in the text. I do not need you to tell me about these errors as this will all be part of the process and I hope you can look past this.

contribution …

So often we can feel overwhelmed in the face of all the problems in today’s world. One minute with the news or on social media can be disheartening, seeming like it’s impossible for you, as just one person, to make a difference.

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Think about times when your beliefs and actions may have inspired others.

Questions/Prompts to Guide Your Writing:

have you ever posted a positive image or quote on social media …

what made it special to you …

I post quotes and images on social media all the time. This is actually my main source of advocacy.

how do you feel like you contribute to the world through your vocation …

I am always, always, willing to offer my empathy and understanding to anyone in need. I know that this is felt by people because they willingly open up to me.

have you ever donated money or time to a cause …

what feelings prompted you to do so …

I have volunteered to ME connect, when I wasn’t as sick as I am. I donate every single month to an ME cause.

have you ever performed a random act of kindness …

I am always kind and do things randomly.

how do you contribute to your family or friend group on a regular basis …

My friends and family all know that they can always come to me for anything.

how would you like to live your life with the idea that you’re setting an example for others as you do so …

would you do anything differently …

I want everyone who I come into contact with to know that I will not judge them, ever, and that they can come to me for anything and if I can help then I will help.

is there a meaningful giving experience you’d like to plan for in the future …

write about it …

I always plan to buy something for the local food bank and I would love to do some volunteer work again if I ever get some consistent wellness.

… without health, life is not life; …
… it is only a state of languor …
… and suffering-an image of death …
… François Rabelais …

in summary & in conclusion …

I am finding that I am too poorly to give my best efforts to this weekly series. And so, there may have to be some weeks where I cannot put much effort into the work and the essay as I would like. However, there are some subjects that I may revisit as I find the subject matter interesting.

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The Essay : contribution …

Feeling as though you contribute is extremely important to a sense of well being and value. However, it can be a difficult thing to see in yourself and tackle when you are severely unwell.

I would like to look at some of the ways that someone who is severely unwell with ME could contribute to their close family / personal environment, as well to the whole of general society.

ways we can contribute …

#1 know this …

One really important way that you can contribute to your personal environment, as well as your general environment, is to know that you are valuable. Deeply know and believe this.

Yes, knowing and believing you are valuable may feel like a very self centred belief to have. However, if we don’t know this then we carry around with us poor self opinions, which in turn send out negative vibrations and make the atmosphere around us feel uncomfortable, for ourselves and for those we share our space with.

No one likes to enter, or stay in, a room that has an uncomfortable energy.

So, we can contribute to the positiveness, or better feeling vibes, of the energy around us by simply not just knowing we are valuable, but believing we are.

#2 thankfulness & gratefulness …

Be thankful.

Be grateful.

I know from very personal experience that having this illness, especially at the severe end, doesn’t really give you much to feel or be thankful and grateful for. However, most of us will have somebody in our lives, even if it is our local social services, taking care of some of our needs and helping us out in the areas we need it most. And we need to be thankful and grateful for this.

We need to express our gratefulness by using our manners and saying please and thank you when someone helps us out.

There is a good chance that we feel bitter about being so poorly, every single day and rightly so. Yet, this is not the fault of our carer or helper. We do not need to make them feel bad just because we feel bad.

We can contribute to a good relationship with them, and to the overall atmosphere and vibrations, of the relationship by being thankful and expressing our gratefulness to them for all they do.

#3 treat others as you would have them treat you …

It’s very easy, when you’re so sick and meet with disbelief and ill treatment because of your illness, to understandably feel that it’s the best thing to treat others as they treat you.

However, all thoughts and behaviours have an impact of your bio chemical and bios physical makeup and so to treat others as you would have them treat you is not only beneficial to the relationship but benefits yourself too. It will have a positive impact of your internal environment which can in turn have a positive effect on your overall health.

Either way you will feel better about yourself and so it a wiser way to be with all as much as you peacefully can …

#4 express yourself …

Nevertheless, thinking about the above advice, you may not always be able to respond in a kind manner to some of the treatments you receive.

In these cases the most important way you can respond is with strong balanced words.

Find ways to express yourself verbally without offending but more so without compromising yourself.

And when you have been peaceable as far as you can tell them to f**k off and leave you alone!

Another way you can express yourself is in your surroundings. Even if you cannot have access to the whole home make sure your private spaces, where you spend time, reflects you and make you feel peaceful and at home.

#5 share …

Share share share …

share whatever you have …

be it knowledge, money, pictures, wisdom, a listening ear, or even things (if you have them and are not using them) …

just share whatever you can.

This will make you feel valuable and part of things.

#6 be easy & let go …

Be easy and let go of everything … don’t hang on … don’t try and work stuff out … just let it go if it’s causing you a problem.

What can or does this really mean?

For myself, this means to be easy about it all. Accept what I can and cannot do and don’t stress the rest. Just, let it go.

This is way easier said, or written, than it is done.

#7 love …

L O V E  is the answer to everything …

Think about it … really think, ponder, and dwell on it …

love has to be the answer to everything … if you have ever received and / or given genuine love you will totally get this without any further explanation …

Love is the most healing force in the world; nothing goes deeper than love. It heals not only the body, not only the mind, but also the soul. If one can love then all one’s wounds dissappear. Then one becomes whole – and to be whole is to be holy. — osho 

in summary & in conclusion …

Our contribution can be measured in many ways. More ways than I have the health to discuss. But the above can offer you a taster of some ways you can see your contribution, no matter how sick you are, and thus gain value and self love.

a personal concluding note …

I seriously need to see my contribution and there are quite a few ways above that I could use.

be easy …

lit it go …

breathe slowly and invite release and relaxation of your tense areas …

… l o v e …

… the end …

Please feel free to contact me to share your outcomes or with any questions you may have.

 fragmented.ME xXx